Your spouse has engaged in an extra marital affair which leaves you mind reeling and wondering how it is going to be potential surviving the affair, let alone getting the images of your partner's transgression out of your head.
It's almost impossible for many affair survivors to believe that time will finally fade these images into nothingness. The images are so heart wrenching and raw at the gift moment. Is it even a possibility of them fading?
Actually, yes, it is possible.
You'll be using a 3 step process in banishing your affair associated images and find out just what you're doing to feed these images.
Feeding the Beast of the Affair-Image
Thoughts are not something you can see or touch, but they appear so real and can influence us physically, mentally and emotionally. Thoughts are truly things, as the self-development crowd so often say.
Understand, first of all, when you're trying so hard at surviving the affair, you've just been straight through an emotionally crippling ordeal, an ordeal that is maybe the hardest you'll ever encounter in a relationship. And it will seem at the beginning, that every waking moment is consumed by the affair and the raw images that accompany those thoughts.
Because of the fact these thoughts/images are charged up emotionally, they are very powerful, as well as, devastating. This thoughts are more excellent than say, finding a bodily item you've always wanted.
You may upon finding something you've always wanted feel a bit of envy, but, finding it doesn't generate jealousy, and not to the point of dominating your thinking and losing sleep about it.
An affair is devastating, and reaches deep down to the core of your being. Most likely, this what gives such intense feelings, because it affects you so deeply within yourself. Because of the power of these images, they start to seep into other areas of life, manufacture them even more realistic.
Your own thoughts are what is feeding the affair images.
The reason it is so difficult breaking the cycle and getting rid of the images is because every time you think a conception about the affair, a corresponding image comes into your mind with it. The image leads you to think of other image and round and round it goes.
The human mind thinks in pictures, its how we process information, because we use our optical skills so much.
Each time a conception and it's associated image pops into your mind, the connection/link gets stronger. That is why breaking the cycle of thinking about the affair images is so hard to stop, especially at the beginning.
However, the cycle can be broken with effort. Exertion will be required because you're trying to struggle against a excellent mind habit. In your Exertion in surviving the affair, will need to be spread out over several areas and angles of approach, if you want to eliminate and banish the ugly affair images permanently.
To achieve that, corollary these 3 steps, they'll help you:
Step #1: Sort straight through you Emotions
Your emotions are going to range from mild/weak to strong/powerful, so you'll need to get in touch with how you're feeling, this is important. If you rate them from 1 - 10, I'm guessing that the emotional distress your feeling, is a 12 plus.
They'll come in waves (your emotions), so just let them roll in. You need to caress them so that you can publish their emotional charge, and they will hurt. Ignoring or bottling them up inside, will only get them to fester because they will be just under the surface, building pressure, like a volcano, until they finally explode.
Getting them out will help you feel much better, trying to suppress them will cause added pain. It's instinctual for us to avoid pain, that's why we Exertion to suppress it. The pain of your partner's affair is there guaranteed, but you need to express and let go of it.
Step #2: Challenge Your Thinking
The affair is going to cause you to think many negative thoughts, this is quite normal. However, you'll have a tendency to twist them and manipulate them, because they after all, are your own thoughts.
An example would be that because your partner cheated, your self talk might be you thinking you've let your body go to pot. Challenge this way of thinking by request questions. Question your thinking process.
Your thoughts are not always the truth, you can and do twist your thoughts around. So negative thinking about yourself is not necessarily true. Just treat them as mere suggestions of you imagination and don't feel bad for tossing them out.
Step #3: change The Images
It's your mind, so every time an ugly affair image pops into your conception process, change it. If it is an unwelcome thought, visualize yourself throwing it out or generate a giant eraser in your imagination and every time the thought(s) come up about your partner's affair, just erase them.
This is just similar to what we've previously talked about, enthralling you thinking. If you don't want the images in your mind you simply don't accept them there.
As in all things, these 3 steps, naturally, will take time and effort. The sooner you start, the sooner you'll get the gut wrenching affair images controlled, which will improve how you're feeling. Surviving the affair is painful, so it is my wish these 3 steps will help alleviate your pain as fast as possible.
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